What’s it like to live in a time warp, needing more time than other people to process what’s being said, what it might mean, and therefore how you should feel in response? Sarah Nannery knows the score, given her struggles with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). Meanwhile, as a “neurotypical brain” person, her husband, Larry Nannery, adds his perspective about helping Sarah navigate situations ranging from office politics to social outings. Highlights of this episode include what internalization means to Sarah as she copes with feeling “bottled up inside,” and how she makes a “conversational sandwich” to handle the small talk that others can handle so readily.
From Thom Hartmann’s perspective, the battle over whether America should provide universal healthcare has been warped first by racism, then by greed. From the 1880’s to the 1980’s the idea of universal American healthcare was often opposed because it would aid African-Americans, too. Then from the Reagan Revolution to today, greed explains the delay in adopting universal healthcare because the current system favors industry insiders. Meanwhile, the average American pays more for less than is true elsewhere in the so-called Developed World. Get ready for plenty of surprises in this episode, like how the debate about healthcare got launched by three Germans: Karl Marx, Otto von Bismarck, and a person named Frederick Ludwig Hoffman. Never heard of the third guy? Well, at a time when Prudential was the biggest insurer in America, Hoffman became the company’s leading advocate for denying healthcare on racist grounds, thereby blunting the momentum to adopt universal healthcare that the German leader Bismarck had decided was a way to counter the appeal of Marxism.
The correct answer to this week’s quiz is $1 billion, almost the entire budget for the EPA (which has been cut in half by Congress in recent years). Also, perhaps worth knowing, companies that caused the problem often avoid paying the clean-up costs: most often because offenders can’t be identified, no longer exist, or claim they can’t afford to contribute.
How do toxic waste sites compare to offices? Well, with over 25% of all bosses qualifying as bullies, and burn-out rates in various occupations running in the range of 50% or more, hazards abound. People’s lives feel contaminated by undue and/or uncompensated stress. Who’s to pay up? Just like taxpayers shouldn’t have to compensate for the ill-gotten gains of companies polluting our environment and using citizen’s taxes to finance Superfund clean-ups, why should stressed-out employees be left holding the bag? When will Vice Presidents, Directors and Managers have their pay and career advancements influenced by metrics such as the employee retention rate in their departments along with other metrics like the absenteeism rate vs. the company average, and an accounting of the degree to which the mental health needs of employees reach a chronic level?
Paula Davis JD, MAPP is the founder and CEO of the Stress & Resilience Institute, a training and consulting firm. She’s been featured in The New York Times, O (The Oprah Magazine), and The Washington Post; and she’s also a contributor to Forbes, Fast Company and Psychology Today.
The number of Covid-19 cases is rising quickly again in America. If Donald Trump’s post-election shenanigans mean he’s serious about running for President again in four years, then it’s time to prepare for the political equivalent of Covid-24. No wonder so many Americans feel uneasy.
Anxiety is rooted in a feeling that you’re not up to handling the circumstances you face. That sensation can trigger profound, prolonged sadness (depression) because your situation feels hopeless.
Fortunately, the topic of my podcast this week involves seven habits people can foster to help them cope with adversity. Depending on your personality type and existing interests in life, you may gravitate to one or more of the following habits:
Three ways to make physical connections: by 1) exploring nature, 2) by having a household pet, and 3) by listening to your own body through breathing exercises like those yoga teaches.
Three ways to enhance your cognitive appreciation through: 4) enjoying the power of laughter, 5) music, and 6) stories.
The final habit is 7) spiritual: using prayers and meditation to anchor in something you do control, your own values and sense of being.
Dr. Christophe Morinhas received multiple speaking, publishing, and research awards during his career. He holds an MBA from BGSU, and both a MA and a Ph.D. in Media Psychology from Fielding Graduate University. The episode focuses on three transformational steps: better understanding your personality and motivations, practicing self-love, and finally choosing among seven habits those that may best help sustain you and bring you more inner calm.
Now blissfully many years ago, I survived two bad bosses in a row. The first was so capriciously mean-spirited that one day on the job our department secretary, a sweet, devout older woman, called me over with glee to tell me the latest joke making the rounds. “Why is Linda going on vacation?” The punchline was so she could write a new introduction to Adolf Hitler’s Mein Kampf. Half a dozen lawsuits against the company for being subjected to “mental cruelty” would soon be filed by my colleagues.
As to the other boss, well, that person ran a public relations operation with New York City real estate moguls as clients (Donald Trump wasn’t among them). By my second week at that firm, my neck was iron-tight and incapable of turning even a quarter-inch either direction with ease due to the stress of working there. When I confided my condition to a coworker, she breezily remarked: “Oh, everybody gets sick here by their second week on the job.”
Many of us have had bad bosses, but the two men I’m highlighting this week have it worse than most everyone. They’re stuck in dire circumstances. The first is obviously Dr. Anthony Fauci, who has to deal with the coronavirus and Trump’s back-biting. The other is Bill Stepien, Trump’s new manager of a campaign dealing with both Trump’s self-induced chaos and a double-digit deficit in the presidential race against Joe Biden. Fauci is certainly the kinder spirit of the two men. Stepien’s biggest claim to fame is being fired by former New Jersey governor Chris Christie for exhibiting “callous indifference” amid Christie’s Bridgegate scandal. Come to think of it that makes for a third, bad boss. That’s because I had taken on being manager of Christie’s first, brief foray into politics. The lure? Christie was challenging a fellow Republican who had claimed women were incapable of being good judges given their menstrual cycles.
What do Fauci and Stepien have to do now? Engage in what I call “reverse innovation”: whereby the situation is so dire that you have to practice creativity and triage both aggressively at the same time in order to have any chance of success. I’ll be elaborating on what “reverse innovation” means in a business context in my video below.
Why is the corporate fallback being “analytical” (as opposed to nurturing creativity)?
Bashan is a creativity expert who has spent the past two decades devising a formula for sustained creativity. Besides his blue-chip corporate clients, Bashan has also worked on album, movies and advertisements for people like Rod Stewart and Woody Harrelson, won a Clio and been nominated for an Emmy. This is his first book.
Topics covered in this episode include:
Creativity’s three unlikely personal traits (hint: courage is one of them).
Why self-doubt and complacency are both threats to successful innovation, and how to overcome each in turn.
Design obstacles Bashan has witnessed, plus five more from my book Emotionomics.
Unlike talking points, feeling points inadvertently emerge on your face when you step to the podium. On Thursday, Donald Trump’s son-in-law Jared Kushner made his debut at the White House’s daily coronavirus briefing and the disgust he characteristically feels was clearly evident in the way his upper lip curled while his lower lip jutted down and away.
What was Kushner’s ostensible purpose in thrusting himself into the picture? To address medical supply chain issues and make all of us safer as a result of his joining Vice President Mike Pence’s virus task force. What was the inadvertent message Kushner’s face revealed? Arrogance. Other people’s opinions and actions are repugnant; namely those of governors crying for more supplies than Kushner – on day one on the job – believes they really need. “The health crisis” has clarified which leaders are “better managers than others” said the imperial Archangel on Thursday, in announcing he’s arrived on the scene to save us all.
Competency may not be an issue Kushner wants to highlight. His track record in real estate and in bringing peace to the Middle East was already none-too-impressive. Then during the early stages of the corona epidemic, Kushner advised his father-in-law that the media was exaggerating the threat. Later, Kushner fed President Trump the line that Google would soon have a miracle website to help coordinate virus testing. What’s the truth? Kushner’s a smug, cold fish and downright incompetent, and in those regards an appropriate addition to the family currently in the White House.
Every doctor and nurse putting their lives at risk to combat the pandemic should be honored for their courage, generosity and steadfastness. With eyes wide with fear and seemingly near tears, this nurse also shows pressed lips and a raised chin that reveal grim determination to hang in there.
So it’s with appalled amazement that I’ve heard about medical staff members being fired for speaking up about a greater need to protect the safety of colleagues and themselves. Hospital directors deserve our praise and gratitude, too, but not when they’re motivated to protect their institution’s “reputation” over those on the front lines. Better to practice what the marquee at a closed movie theater down the street from my house proclaims: Be Kind / Stay Safe.