The correct answer is C, as it comes the closest to the actual percentage of Americans reporting that they feel lonely: 47%. In other words, nearly one of every two Americans feel psychologically if not physically isolated, too. At work, job insecurity and working-from-home (WFH) can be contributors. When I mentioned to HR consultant Caroline Stokes in a previous interview the estimate is that 25% of all bosses qualify as bullies, Stokes thought that percentage was too low. Add to that mix difficult bosses, then a worker’s day can seem even longer. When loneliness induces sadness (which it typically does), a sense of helplessness and hopelessness can settle in, depriving a person of the energy to get things done and also interact with others. A good manager might intervene to correct that vicious cycle, but not a bully boss. If you’re in an office setting, your desk may be near other colleagues but do you feel connected to them? My favorite statistic of late is that there are only 18 inches separating the head and the heart, but, oh-what-a-distance that can prove to be!
Eileen McDargh is the CEO (Chief Energy Officer) at the Resiliency Group. In 2019, Global Gurus International ranked her first among the World’s Top 30 Communication Professionals. She’s also been elected into the CPAE Speaker Hall of Fame, placing her among the top 3% of speakers in America.
First, let’s clarify that prejudice is a consciously-held bias against others based on gender, race, religion, or other factors. As for our little quiz, “I” statements may work best in responding to people not even aware that they have a bias problem. The reason is that telling these people how their bias impacts you personally, as a victim of bias, increases their awareness, and makes them take responsibility for the bias rather than (falsely) attribute that bias to others. A “You” statement is a way to get bullies who are being mean-spirited and exercising power to back off – in very personal terms. You’re fighting power with the power that your response will have consequences for the bully in question. That leaves an “it” statement as your best tool in countering prejudice because you’re dealing with a fixed attitude, a bias or essentially, an unmovable object that must be called out objectively for what it is: a cancerous problem.
Released today: episode #52 of “Dan Hill’s EQ Spotlight,” featuring Kim Scott, the author of Just Work: Get Sh*t Done, Fast & Fearand her business partner, Trier Bryant. Check out the audio link below to get oriented or click here to get to the new episode.
Kim Scott and Trier Morgan co-founded the company Just Work to help organization and individuals crate more equitable workplaces. Scott was previously a CEO coach at Dropbox, Qualtrics, Twitter, and other tech companies. She’s been on the faculty at Apple University and led various teams at Google.